Dear Reader,
Hello again. This second book in the three-part series moves past introducing our characters and gets to the heart of the matter: attachment. As a hatchling, Poppy is completely interdependent on her primary caregiver, Momma Hen — but as she grows, she begins moving toward autonomy.
This book is written for little ones between the ages of two and three, an exciting stage for both toddlers and their caregivers — but expect a few ruffled feathers along the way. Little chicks will want to test their wings, and may become frustrated when they can't do it all by themselves on the first try. Be patient, and help your chick keep trying.
Poppy needs a stable home base — checking in with Momma Hen while exploring, then heading off again. During what's known as rapprochement (roughly 15 to 24 months), toddlers often feel torn between a desire for independence and a fear of abandonment. Expect some clinging, whimpering, throwing, even biting. Don't worry — this is only a phase.
Often during the second half of the third year, something shifts. Poppy begins to understand: Momma Hen and I are partners. She doesn't have to be tied to her side anymore — she simply knows Momma Hen will be there if she needs her.
I remember the peak of frustration with my own chicks was between the ages of three and three and a half, when almost every word out of their mouths was "NO!" I turned it into a game, singing a made-up tune: "No, no, no, no, I like to say no, I like to say no!" Eventually my kids sang along, and we all ended up laughing. Find your own silly ways to cope — this stage won't last forever.
More tips and ideas are on our website, growingwithdrkathy.com.
I hope you enjoy reading this series to your child.
Best wishes,
Dr Kathy